don't stop what you used to do...keep chasing! 
Ok! This one is going to be a fast one. I’m going to be giving you some pointers. Careful you can fall off this ride. 
Almost everyone, guy, lady, man, woman has been part of the chase before. You’ve either done the chasing or have been chased one way or the other. What is the chase? Have you called someone you loved or someone who you really wanted to go out with, like a thousand times (of course not literally)? You know, someone, some guy, some lady, who always want to be with, you’d call them up all the time, you SMS them all the time, you think about them all the time, you always want to be with that person such that when someone else saw you doing all that you get the person’s attention, they would think you were stalking. Ok! Ok! We haven’t gotten to half-way of this post already and you beginning to think about that person already. 
Ok, stick with me before you daze again. So I’m not talking about stalking someone. I’m talking about, hmmmmm for lack of a proper word ‘bothering’ your beloved, sort of like bugging them all the time because you like or love them so much.
Ok don’t jump of this ride yet. Let’s go. If you are a guy, remember before your girlfriend or wife became actually your girlfriend and your wife? Remember all the trouble you went through to get their attention first, and you always wanted to hang out with them, had fun all over the place, you bugged her so much that she fell in love with you? Remember the times you’d get up and look at the phone in the morning hoping she left a message or whether there was a missed call from her? Remember when you rushed to her aid anytime she called even if you were busy doing something very important and you’d lie saying that what you were doing wasn’t really important and go to her aid? Remember all the sweet SMS’ you cracked out of your head so you’d be romantic and sweet enough to get her attention? Remember all the times when you go up to her and then all she’d talk about was what had happened to her during the day and then you’d just listen? Remember those times when you were not in a good shape or had a bad day and then she would tell you about how her day was and you’d forget yours for that moment and try to console her if she felt sad or just listen? Remember all those things you put off just to be with her or get her attention, making a lot time to be with her? Remember all those other things you did CHASING after her? Some which she can’t even begin to imagine! Huh? Remember? Well my friend that is the chase! And you have been a part of it, whether you agree or not, it exists! Guys I know how much most of you don’t like admitting chasing but you know it’s true. Before I jump to why I brought all this up let me talk to the ladies for a minute, alright!
Women most of the time like being chased. They admit and like the chase from the guys and they know that too because they always talk about it among themselves. They love to be on the receiving end of all that I mentioned earlier with the guys and what they did but they seem to forget one thing, guys love the chase too. They love being chased by their woman but with guys, ladies be careful, if he is not your man yet you don’t want him to think that even if he stops wanting you, you’d always do. It gives him the edge to misbehave or do pretty much do anything he likes and sometimes not thinking clearly about later consequences. If he’s your man, don’t stop the chase!
Now you all listen, you got into the relationship or marriage you are in because of the chase, the fun, the excitement with calls and SMS’ on end, going out, chatting the night away, and all the others after you consider what you liked in your partner. So I don’t know why the chase has to end when the relationship you desired has come through. Why do people stop the chase? All the fun and excitement? Huh? Can someone tell me why? You stop calling now every second in a day just to say how much you love each other and want to be with each other, you stop hanging out more often, you stop the CHASE! Then you complain that he or she is boring and you can’t do this anymore. Then you start seeing marriage counselors and psychologists and all that (I do admit that some really do need those professionals ) and then you quit the relationship or the marriage. Well, guess what? You decided to do this, because of the chase and the things that fascinated you about each other and all of a sudden you stopped when you had to put more fuel. Keep chasing! Why? Because it takes more fuel, more time, more energy and my girlfriend’s personal favourite, more patience to make the relationship or marriage work. Don’t stop the chase once you are in the relationship! I hope that has gone well And in the course of the relationship, I know one’s fuel may reduce but the other shouldn’t stop the chase, continue chasing until he or she is refueled again and vice versa. Why do you think people stay married for 20, 30, 35 years and they are still happy? They don’t stop the chase. When your man or your woman stops the chase bluntly and he doesn’t chase you anymore, you better start thinking twice after talking to him or her and they wouldn’t budge. I’m serious! :O Very important point, the chase is not done by one person. It’s never one person in a relationship. It’s two! (of course God is a third person but I’m talking but you two, the humans ) Ladies don’t stop chasing your man! Guys don’t stop chasing your woman!
Enjoy the chase people! Remember the old wild times, huh? 
Bottom line: be still crazy about your man or woman like you were at the beginning!
