Actually my father never taught me anything as in speaking. I watched him. You know what they say about children. They don’t listen to what adults say, they watch what you do. You can’t say one thing and do another. Some people will snatch the beer bottle from their teenagers and say no alcohol, and right there open one for themselves. What the parent wants to achieve is not going to happen. Then again what are they trying to achieve? They are telling them to put away drinking for now but do it later.
Probably I would end up drinking alcohol, if my father had given up his actions about it. We visited a friend of his, let’s called her Gifty. We stayed for a long time over there, eating and conversing and all. It was a long time ago when I was way younger. Gifty’s friend came along when we were eating fufu, and he was given alcoholic wine. He tried convincing my father to drink some, over and over again. I watched my father critically to know what his actions would be and he constantly tried to stop the guy from persuading him, refusing bluntly but nicely. The guy kept on saying, it is good for the heart, a little that is, but Dad said no. That was something that got in grafted in my mind forever because I was so little at the time. My dad drunk no alcohol and I also, now a young adult, can tell you I never have. He probably doesn’t know, or he does, I don’t know J. Not once has he told me not to drink, not to have sex before marriage, to be well behaved, he actions spoke louder than words.
I was faced with a situation too, that I was in a friend’s garage where his dad had stocks of beer. The boy went there to drink many times in a day. He took me there, and the urge was great but I never once did, because being a young man I always wanted to grow up to be just like my father, he was the perfect example and I didn’t want to be any less but like him and more. Dad you are the best role model anyone can ever have. One day your descendants will look up to you as the one they want to be like.
Parents your children don’t listen to you, they watch you.
