21 Years of Marriage and still going…

happy 21st anniversary

My parents celebrated their wedding anniversary a few days ago on the 1^st of Oct. they have been married now for 21 years and mum and dad I say a Happy Anniversary, the whole world wished you well when got married in 1988 and by God’s grace today you have raised a standard, a legacy of love and commitment for your children to follow and so we will.

 

You the funny thing I like about my parents wedding anniversary is that by calculating from the 1^st of October to the 1^st of July (my birthday) are exactly 9 months. I like to think of it that I was conceived on the wedding night. lol Well I was so waiting to come into this world, huh?

 

I know many people too haven’t seen the people who birthed them live together in love in one home for many years but today I tell you that it is very possible. Perhaps you didn’t get that but you can change and decide that when you find someone you love you will stay committed to them till death parts you.

 

Of course my parents aren’t the most perfect people on earth. They have had differences before, I have seen them disagree on so many issues but in order not to make the thing venture into unpleasantries one would have to let go, be it mum or dad. They both may not know it but they have thought me so much about marriage that they can imagine. My parents haven’t really talked to me or any of my siblings about love and marriage and all that but they have shown us how it is done and that is the best example anyone can receive. They have thought me that when I find the woman I love, there will be ups and downs. We can’t runaway when there are bad times and stay when there are good times, that’s not marriage, that’s CONVENIENCE!!! Marriage stays through the thick and the thin, good times and bad times.

 

Mum and Dad we look forward to celebrating your 50^th wedding Anniversary with both of you still strong and alive, with all your children, great-grandchildren, and the huge family saying ‘well done’, ‘what a leagcy’ and ‘Thank you, God!’ I pray that God Himself who started with you will end with you successfully such that when you go, you’ll be laughing and smiling and people will be crying not because you have departed but because two great repositories of love have gone. We pray strength for the many years ahead. I love you

 

By Chance?!!!!

‘Chance’ is a word that don’t play in my dictionary. LOL…have you ever thought that something happened at a particular time and particular place by chance? Think again, you’re WRONG! Yeah you heard me, WRONG!

Come on, even the little baby knows her mother took the knife away from her for a reason which she may not be too sure of. You think that man who just tried some lottery numbers for the first time, and won…had it by chance. No, I don’t think it’s chance…you know what I say about God who always watches over us and sees us; HE makes us know that nothing happens by chance but for a reason. The fact that you don’t know doesn’t mean you should go ahead think luck or chance happened. NO way! At least we are more matured than the baby who will cry for the knife being taken…act maturely…chance?

Fine, prove to me that you came to this world by chance, that your parents weren’t supposed to be your parents, that your friends came by chance, that your boyfriend/girlfriend came by chance, that your neighbour came by chance, that all the schools you attended were by chance, that your parents’ perseverance to pay your school bill was by chance…yeah right? Prove to me? Can you? Let’s look at the big picture…prove to me that this world came by chance, God came by chance, the beautiful attractions of nature came by chance, that man went into Space by chance…certainly not! Everything happens for a reason, that’s the truth.

Your parents, even if they didn’t love each other, even worse, lets say they weren’t expecting you and you happened, you think you came by chance? Chance? Fine, let’s work with chance for a minute, so you saying that because you came by chance you won’t amount to anything in this life? That’s the lamest excuse I have ever heard. You have a reason for being here, you can’t change your parents, you can’t change the past, but you can determine tomorrow, by acting today. You have to find the reason, don’t be that baby and cry. Life is work, you work it. Are we on the same page? I hope so.

Your friends, there’s a reason why there are your friends, even if they betrayed you. Allow me to let you on this, there’s a positive and negative side to everything…it’s up to you to choose which one will influence you. I know you could choose those you want to make your friends but your reason for making them your friends may not be HIS reasons for making them meet you. I could take those items I listed in the previous paragraph and show you all the way nothing is chance but I want you to do that. Simply put, there’s a reason You happened and there’s a reason They happened. If you believe that then we can continue, if you don’t you’re wasting your time here.

You know why we think things are by chance? If you realize it, we usually think like that when things are evil or bad, or too good to be true. Imagine the Two World Wars, very devastating…you think it was chance…no there was a reason that sparked it; the causal reason which is what everybody knows and has seen and is for now and before (past), but there’s a real reason which is for the future, which I want you to look at, the positive side of the world war in the future and the many years after 1945. Now this is the real part I want you to get, if you don’t understand read from the top again and slowly. The real reason is what I want all of us to look at when it comes to every thing that happens around us. Don’t only look at the causal reason, but look at the positive aftermath of everything, whether bad or good. There’s a real reason which is positive. If you do this in everything you will turn to appreciate everything that happens or has happened.

Another one; so what is the real reason for your parents being your parents despite who they are, your friends also, your boyfriend/girlfriend, your wife/husband being who they are to you, your neighbour being your neighbour and not anyone else, why you attended certain schools…if you find the real reason then look at the big picture too; why you came to this world?

CHANCE IS FOR THE ONE WHO BELIEVES HIS VERY EXISTENCE IS BY THAT SAME CHANCE.

 

No Place Like My Foundation

They brought me into this world

Trained and nurtured me

They sent me to a place daily

To be educated

They provided food for me

When I was hungry

They wiped away my tears

When I cried

They built a roof over my head

When the storm was coming

Now I am leaving the comfort of their home

To make mine own

In the good world

Or so I thought

Life felt uneasy

Everything is a risk

They cautioned me

But naivety had the better of me

In the world I entered

The good world I saw from my father’s home

Now became the cruel

Friends now became the obstacles

Enemies became my competitors

Then I saw and knew the origin of corruption

But my bearers advised me not to visit her

I took to my heels anytime she glanced

I will forever be grateful to them

Encouragement, advice and chastisement was my daily meal

In my stride, I injected the principles

That made a man from a boy

Looking back I will always smile

For home is always home.